Common use of RAP Clause in Contracts

RAP. Fix: When a sister shares a problem, I may be tempted to offer possible solutions. It can be difficult to see a problem and not want to fix it. The truth is, I will only ever have a partial understanding of her situation. My solutions may or may not be right for her. If she accepts a solution that I offer, she loses the opportunity to discover her own solution. If my suggestion works, she may feel beholden to me or weakened in her sense of her own personal agency. If my suggestion doesn’t work, she may end up in worse straits – and blame me besides. When I am invited to witness or facilitate another woman’s work, I am not being invited to problem solve or fix things for her. I am being invited to stand alongside her as she listens for the voice of the Holy Spirit in the unfolding of her own story. Rescue: I see my sister in pain, and I want to make her feel better. I offer a hug or a tissue or words of comfort. The problem is that my sister may need fully to experience her pain in order to discover the depths of truth that God is opening up for her to lead her to healing. My efforts to rescue her from her pain may cut her off from this source of deep healing. What’s more, it may not be her pain I want to ease, but my own. When I see someone I care about in pain, I may hurt too. If I can keep you from hurting, I can limit my own pain. Instead of rescuing my sister, I can see my own hurt as an opportunity for me to seek God for my own healing. Advise: When I hear a woman’s story, I may feel I know what she needs to do to experience healing. I may even be convinced that I have heard a word from the Holy Spirit telling her what she should do. I’m tempted to give her advice. Instead, our Core Principles invite me to trust that my sister herself is hearing from the Spirit in the context of her own walk with ▇▇▇▇▇▇. Perhaps I have heard a word from the Spirit. I can wonder how that message is for or about me. Even if my sister asks me for advice, I can instead affirm my confidence in her access to wisdom. Instead of advising, I might offer to pray silently with her as she listens for how God might be speaking through her.

RAP. Fix: When a sister shares a problem, I may be tempted to offer possible solutions. It can be difficult to see a problem and not want to fix it. The truth is, I will only ever have a partial understanding of her situation. My solutions may or may not be right for her. If she accepts a solution that I offer, she loses the opportunity to discover her own solution. If my suggestion works, she may feel beholden to me or weakened in her sense of her own personal agency. If my suggestion doesn’t work, she may end up in worse straits – and blame me besides. When I am invited to witness or facilitate another woman’s work, I am not being invited to problem solve or fix things for her. I am being invited to stand alongside her as she listens for the voice of the Holy Spirit in the unfolding of her own story.beholden Rescue: I see my sister in pain, and I want to make her feel better. I offer a hug or a tissue or words of comfort. The problem is that my sister may need fully to experience her pain in order to discover the depths of truth that God is opening up for her to lead her to healing. My efforts to rescue her from her pain may cut her off from this source of deep healing. What’s more, it may not be her pain I want to ease, but my own. When I see someone I care about in pain, I may hurt too. If I can keep you from hurting, I can limit my own pain. Instead of rescuing my sister, I can see my own hurt as an opportunity for me to seek God for my own healing. Advise: When I hear a woman’s story, I may feel I know what she needs to do to experience healing. I may even be convinced that I have heard a word from the Holy Spirit telling her what she should do. I’m tempted to give her advice. Instead, our Core Principles invite me to trust that my sister herself is hearing from the Spirit in the context of her own walk with ▇▇▇▇▇▇. Perhaps I have heard a word from the Spirit. I can wonder how that message is for or about me. Even if my sister asks me for advice, I can instead affirm my confidence in her access to wisdom. Instead of advising, I might offer to pray silently with her as she listens for how God might be speaking through her.